Dating my daughters friend mother
She and her daughter had always been very close -- that is, until her daughter's boyfriend Dan came into the picture.
This mom explained how she felt that Dan wasn't good enough for her daughter and that he didn't treat her daughter with respect.
But this kind of absolute approach almost always backfires.
I remember one story that a mom shared during a workshop that broke my heart.
For teen girls, their friends are their entire universe, and how you approach or question their choices about their friends can either open up a deeper dialogue between you or cause them to shut down completely.
I get how hard it must be not to want to yell, "" or to unilaterally ban the person from your daughter's life.
While she clearly wanted to protect her daughter, setting that hard boundary drove a huge wedge between her and her girl.
Expressing your disapproval over your daughter's choices, on the other hand, may only serve to alienate her -- and we all know no mother wants that.
I know my mom trusts me to do the right things and make the right choices.
While your instincts about him or her may not be wrong, you may not know the full picture.
A lot of girls have said they appreciated their moms taking the time to understand why that person was important to her.